There’s a constant self-assessment of my parenting – a check of what i desired as a child …. seeing if I’m being the father that I always wanted. Don’t get it twisted…my dad was amazing, and you better believe that his example is one of many parts of my litmus test. I’ve noticed some things amongst dads that never sat right with me…and so I’m going to speak on a couple of them. Here they are in no particular order.
*Dad’s lack of true affection with their sons – – this only creates a greater issue when they get older, please don’t be stingy with the hugs and kisses on the forehead and cheek. I tell my sons I love them constantly and reaffirm with physical touch. – Don’t worry homophobes, this won’t make your son gay.
*Dad’s wrong-view of presence – – Just because you’re in the house, or you take them places doesn’t mean you’re parenting – yeah, in a lot of homes there’s a stay-at-home mom and the dad that works – but your provision does not replace the need for dad’s presence.
*Dad’s failed longview – – you do realize that these future adults that you’re raising is getting their ideology of the male in the home and society from your actions and speech right? What will you perpetuate? What falsehoods will you destroy? Is any of this on your mind ever?
If you never find yourself thinking about the emotional and mental stability of your child, and how much you impact such things then you’re missing out on a huge part of parenting. Dads out there – you need to be really intentional on grooming your legacy. Because whether you choose to or not – you’re being an example, why not be a great one….on purpose.