12.May { It’s the micro-aggressors }


So….I was talking to a friend this morning (who shall remain nameless)…and they told me about something that took place over the weekend – a very “micro-aggressive” slight towards some people of color…

If you’re not familiar with the  term – here you go…

micro-aggressions: “brief and commonplace daily verbal, behavioral, or environmental indignities, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative racial slights and insults toward a people group.

What really grinds my gears about this is that the offender often times – doesn’t have a CLUE that they are reinforcing  negative relations.  Kind of like that time that I was at a meeting at work, and my boss called me buckwheat! – in 2014 this happened..the entire room was in shock – more so of the fact that the aggressor had NO clue that he had offended people. – NOW LET ME GET BACK TO LE STORY.

She told me that she had gone to a little shindig with some of her friends, all of them happened to be black…while they were there – a guy comes to the table and says (and this is me paraphrasing)

“You guys are all cool, I have a black friend and I hung out with his family one time and they were cool, and we had a great time…you all remind me of them”

Now mind you – up to this point, he had had no interaction with them , and the only similarity that he could come to is that just like his black friend’s family – they were a group of black people. – nice.  I can only imagine the gathered group of straight-faces at the table (all of which were probably bourgie, considering the source).

I wanted to post this to make some of my readers aware that this behavior is never okay – check your conversation piece and don’t go around offending people with your “black friend” references.

– Kennethology.