There lies a balance that men are expected to hold. The balance of being a Navy SEAL combined with the tenderness of Ralph Tresvant…well Ralph might be a little too “wet bread” for some of the ladies liking, but maybe in the range of a Maxwell. The “good” men are able to identify with these areas within self and allow them to surface when needed. The thugs can’t seem to find that tender love switch, and the weak men (as some women may deem it necessary to refer to a man as such) find it difficult to find their DMX mask.
As much as men are expected to allow the woman in their lives to liberated in being themselves and embracing their beauty – I feel that this liberty should be reciprocated. No one should be subjected to these gender roles in a relationship. Just understand your partner and flow.
If anyone knows me well, then you’ll know that I’m not the guy that’s going to pick up a tool and start putting things together. If something is broke – I call someone. That’s why I get paid right?
On the surface someone would judge me, and ask me what type of man I was. In response to that dumb question I would reply with “a damn good one”. I’m also a man that had some issues growing, up that directly impacted my want or interest in being handy. It’s a more deep-rooted issue than just “manning-up” and doing what men are supposed to do.
I’m always concerned with my bravado, as well and my sensitivity. The complexity lies in when to shift, and who to shift for.