2.July – { :: A Daily Reminder on Microaggressions :: } by Tina Nagbare

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Happy 2nd half of 2015!

On behalf of the {blog.squad}, I apologize for our silence. We haven’t been blogging, but we’ve been in these social media streets (and sometimes the real ones) fighting the good fight for social justice and educating folks – sometimes against their will. #shrug Plus, we have grown up jobs and yall don’t pay us – so we’ll write when we want. No excuses, just….. life. But here we are! We’re back & we missed you too 🙂

I’m going to start us off light as we get re-acclimated with each other….

:: Me eavesdropping at the car wash ::

African-American (AfAm) Man: “Aye Man! You African or something?!?” (with a voice volume that is 3 notches higher than anyone needed it to be to a Black man dressed in traditional attire)

African Man (with a solid African accent): “Yes, I am.”

AfAm Man: “Where you from?”

African Man: “South Africa.” (obviously already annoyed with this conversation)

AfAm Man: “Oh! Where the white people are from!….” (with confidence… he said this with joy and confidence)

:: Me *extreme side-eye & a deep sigh* ::

AfAm Man: “….I was gonna say man, I thought you was from Ghana or something.”

African Man: *forced polite smile*

:: Me: *thinks* “How TF do you know what Ghanaians vs. South Africans ‘look like’?” ::

AfAm Man: (still un-necessarily loud) “… nah ‘cause I was gonna say you look like that man… Nelson Mandela. That’s a compliment right?!?”

:: Me: *fights urge to flip table* (PS: the African man bears about a 10% resemblance to Nelson Mandela) ::

African Man: “Thank you *another forced smile…*… by the way there’s not just white people in South Africa…”

:: Me: *(fed up) exits gas station* :: 

Ladies & Gentlemen, what we have here is a lesson on microaggression. (Author’s Note: It’s important here to remember there are at least 4 recognized levels of microaggression: microassault, microinsult, microinvalidation, microrape. You’re welcome.) I see the wonder and confusion in your face and Yes, microaggressions aren’t just about race, they can be in reference to gender, culture, religion, etc., etc. AND MOST IMPORTANLY no one gets a pass. I don’t care if you are a member of an oppressed group or not. So let me give you the 2 things that stuck out to me in this moment.

  1. I wonder if African Americans understand how annoying and frustrating this is for you to see an African dressed in traditional attire and then begin to make assumptions about us (Nationality, etc.). The African-American had no ill intent, he was attempting to be cordial and nice & foster a sense of community while paying a compliment, however saying that that man looked like Nelson Mandela was the African equivalent to “all Black people look alike”.
  1. His assumption was even more annoying because it was based on (a) apparently NO knowledge of where Nelson Mandela is from or (b) any knowledge of the continent of Africa period. Saying to a Black South African that you know South Africa as ‘where the white people come from’ is infuriating because you are sharing that your entire knowledge of the country is based on the worst lived experience for Black South Africans (apartheid), which no one wants a reminder of. [PS: Like pretty much EVERY country in Africa the original inhabitants were Black (i.e. before colonization / when White Europeans attempted to rape and destroy an entire continent because… they wanted to).] Iwas pissed at that comment and I’m not even South African. #solidarity

Seriously, it was hard to silently struggle and cope with my fellow African in this moment. It was painful to watch my fellow African have to smile and push through that interaction with grace the same way African-Americans complain about pushing through microaggressions with White people and to watch my fellow African-American continue to dig that hole deeper and deeper. I know *should* have said something, but I was seriously in shock at what was happening and I couldn’t find any words. It was like watching an accident happen in slow motion and not being able to stop it. Personally, I’d hit my limit and chose to exit the conversation and in doing so I missed an opportunity to educate and help the interaction end on a positive note. And as an activist I know better because I know how important it is to “Say Something,” I disappointed myself.

And I’ll acknowledge that I *could* be reaching – it may not be a microaggression, but at the VERY LEAST it was insensitive because I can assure you that interaction was NOT a positive experience for the African man. Sadly, that AfAm man lacked complete awareness of social cues and the ability to read body language so he didn’t even know what he was doing. Either way, it is a nice reminder that we ALL need to be more conscious of this things that come out of our mouths. Because I know that AfAm man walked away from that conversation excited and the African man walked away probably thinking something unkind about AfAms. #SMH

…another blow to African / African-American relations. L

23 Feb. — { Patricia Arquette Tried It :: An Ode To White Feminists }

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It’s already happening. Patricia Arquette is being called out on her (frankly) idiotic statement on pay equality backstage at the Oscars. Her onstage speech was fine. It left some things to be desired, but overall a decent message. I supported her in it because [spoiler alert] I’m a woman and I want all the coins that I have earned. But it’s her words backstage that caused a fuss. In case you missed it:

“It’s time for all the women in America and all the men that love women, and all the gay people, and all the people of color that we’ve all fought for to fight for us now.”

[the deepest exhale that has ever been exhaled]

These words are the reason her activism was a #fail before it had a chance to be great. Problematic in so many ways. There isn’t much more I can add than what Awesomely Luvvie and VSB have already given you all, but I decided to provide you with three quick points.

1. A Lesson on Intersectionality.

What she leaves out or forgets is that there are people of color and members of the LGBT community that are in fact…. women. Forgetting that is an ultimate fail. What about the Black Lesbians? What about the Transgender Latinas? How dare you call for marginalized groups to basically drop their causes to “support” White women in your quest for equality? Did it ever occur to you that we have BEEN in this fight for pay equality, AND have numerous other hurdles to jump before we can even reap the benefits of it? Have you acknowledged that much of the weight in gender pay inequality is carried by women of color?

A white man makes $1.28 for every dollar that a White woman makes.

A white man makes $1.56 for every dollar that a Black woman makes.

A white man makes $1.85 for every dollar that a Latina woman makes.

The last 2 points are precisely why white feminists have trouble getting women of color to fully engage in “their” movement. And those points are the reason Bell Hooks had to write “Feminism is for Everybody.” And they’re the reason there’s a Womanist movement… when it really matters you all forget about everyone else. Which brings me to my next point….

2. “And it’s time for all […] that we’ve all fought for….”

Actually, let me stop you right here. EXCUSE ME? HAVE YOU FOUGHT FOR US? I mean have you REALLY fought for us? Because I don’t recall hearing your stance on Black girls and women who experience discrimination in schools and in the workplace – respectively – for wearing their hair the way it naturally grows from our heads. Where are you on the fact that Black girls face harsher punishments in schools than their White counterparts for similar offenses?

Ahh…. Those are too deep in the race bucket…  I see you getting uncomfortable….

Okay, how about last year during the celebrity photo hacking scandal?? You all jumped fiercely to defend Jennifer Lawrence, but Jill Scott got crickets. If someone dares to speak ill of Lena Dunham you all call out the cavalry, but won’t get out of bed to defend Beyonce. (Author’s Note: Don’t get used to me defending Beyonce. That is all.) Also, there are 29 states where one can legally be fired for being gay. There are also 34 states where once can legally be fired for being transsexual.

Do you see that? All of your self-appointed ally points quickly slipping away? So tell me again how hard you’ve fought for everyone else? *waits*

3. “….to fight for us now.”

This last one is very important and it’s a point that I haven’t really seen expressed elsewhere so please pay attention….

WE (marginalized groups) DON’T OWE YOU S#!&.

Let me explain something. The fight/battle/war for civil rights and equal treatment is not quid pro quo. You don’t get involved in it because you’re hoping to build some army that will show up when called to duty. You do it because it’s the right thing to do. If you have signed up as an ally for a cause for any reason other than that you believe in equality – please exit at the next stop, because we don’t need you. Bye.

Also, you say this as if the fight is over. As if other marginalized groups have achieved complete equality on the backs of your hard work and now have the social and/or political capital to level the injustices you still face. There is a stadium full of seats that I invite you to have.

So over the next few days when you see tweets and articles and blog posts and you’re wondering what the big deal is…. now you know. Do all women benefit from the advances in the feminist movement? Absolutely, but it looks different for all of us. So while middle-class White women are complaining about being 2nd class citizens, it would serve you well to remember that some of us are 3rd (race), 4th (sexual orientation and/or identity), 5th (socioeconomic), 6th (immigration status), 7th (religious affiliation – especially Muslim), or even 8th (any combination of numbers 2-7) class citizens. And you all forgot about us – some of your own – in your rallying cry.

PS: SHOUTOUT to all of the White Feminists who *do* get it. You are appreciated, because the rest of us are tired of having to explain this

21.Feb { My Recurring Struggle With “Black” History }

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I respect, appreciate, and enjoy Black History Month (BHM) for what it stands for and all that it represents, but I can’t say I’ve ever really been 100% invested in it. That could be because of my 1stGen background, which often colors my view on all things related to race and culture. (Sidenote/Reminder: My parents are immigrants and throughout my childhood when I asked clarifying questions about American history they reminded me “That isn’t my history.”) It could also be that I never really got how it was celebrated in most public spaces – Seriously what significance does a Black gospel choir singing Amazing Grace or praise dancers doing lyrical numbers really have to Black History? I kind of get it, but why do you all love it sooooo much? But my nagging issue with BHM is that it doesn’t actually broadly focus on Black history, but is more of a celebration of African-American history. (And I pray that you know the difference, because I’m not planning to explain here. And also…. Google has all the answers you need like the difference between race, ethnicity, nationality, and culture.)

I’m not saying that only celebrating African-American history is wrong, it’s just exclusive. So imagine me growing up, being a Black child in America who wasn’t raised in African-American culture having to celebrate something that didn’t represent me and that I wasn’t educated on and therefore didn’t understand. Now imagine me being around a lot of White kids (and teachers) asking me questions they assumed I knew because I was Black. It was frustrating to say the least and reminded me that I wasn’t like all of the other Black kids. Therefore it felt like BHM wasn’t for me..it wasn’t my celebration. So BHM has always been challenging for me to fully invest in because I never understood why it couldn’t represent all of us. I imagine other African, West Indian, etc folks may feel the same – I haven’t formally done any research so who knows maybe it’s just me.

Now I can acknowledge that after some research I eventually learned that BHM is actually called African-American History Month in the United States and was created to coordinate the teaching of the history of American blacks”. Done — all I needed was that clarification. But I still wonder is there a benefit to having a broader celebration?

 

I’ll explain….

  1. We all acknowledge that the US of A is a land of immigrants (voluntary and involuntary) from yesterday and today. We also acknowledge that in this country Black is Black and the bottom line is no one cares if you got here 200 years ago or last week – more often than not the way you are treated will be the same.
  1. You will often hear many African-Americans state “Our history didn’t begin with slavery”, yet when we talk about our history and have the opportunity to celebrate it – that’s pretty much as far back as we go. And I hear what you’re saying, “But Tina we don’t know which African country or culture we come from”; I know, but also who cares? Doesn’t that make it easier? Instead of having to scour the internet and books for information on your specific culture – you get to pick one or all of them. I would appreciate that option rather than attempting to become the expert on all things Nigerian.
  1. Also, we lose out by not acknowledging Blackness worldwide in our celebration, because we have some amazing, kickarse folks out there. And not only are you missing out, the next generation is too. Who/what am I talking about?
  • Dido Elizabeth Belle (UK) – I’m obsessed with her – go see the film about her life.
  • Alexandre Dumas  (France) – How many of you knew that the man who wrote The Three Musketeers and The Count of Monte Cristowas Black?
  • Queen Idia (Nigeria) – You knew you weren’t getting a list from me that didn’t include a Nigerian woman, don’t even act surprised. She was the first Queen Mother… look her up… she was awesome.
  • Samori Ture (Guinea) – Don’t let them tell you we just allowed the Europeans to come in and colonize Africa. People fought… and it went down.
  • Chief Cetshwayo (South Africa) – Again, we come from a long legacy of “don’t start none, won’t be none”. #LestWeForget
  • Christianity in Ethiopia – PLEASE educate yourselves so you can stop referring to Christianity as “the white man’s religion”. Actually, we had it first.
  • Haitian Revolution – And how it influenced/inspired Africans in America during slavery

I really could go on, but I’ll stop here. How many of us know these names? How many of us have heard or can share these stories with our young people? This is a part of who we are and we started long before we landed on these shores – we could do a better job of remembering that – not just during BHM but it’s a good place to start.

I’m not saying that BHM shouldn’t include African-American History – I’m just wondering if it makes sense to have a broader celebration. (For example: My church in Chicago has an amazing 4-week program that celebrates the journey of Black people – Part 1. Starts in Africa >> Part 2. Travels through the Caribbean/West Indies >> Part 3. US Southern States >> Part 4. The Civil Rights Movement – present day. All I’m saying is – it’s a solid blueprint.) If we want Black History Month to indeed be BLACK History Month then we should do a better job of incorporating and educating ourselves and others about who we were BEFORE we were enslaved &/or colonized and noting that we have accomplishments across the globe. BHM should celebrate and include Blackness everywhere and then maybe it will feel like a collective celebration for all of us who are here now.

Or not – and we could go back to acknowledging it as African-American History Month (like we’re supposed to). You can go ahead and get that Black Gospel Choir on the calendar for next year… and I’ll just sit over here and continue to mind my business. 🙂

30.Dec – { Less of a Movie Review & More of a Cultural Lesson inspired by The Monuments Men }

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I decided to leave this post in 2014. I’m not sure how many “movie reviews” I’ll do, but for the record…

 Disclaimer: I watch all movies with total and complete bias. As a Black, 1stGeneration African (Nigerian) Female (among other things) born and raised in the United States – this is my right and I own it.

As a history and art nerd I’ll admit I was excited about this film as soon as I saw the preview. And what’s not to love? George Clooney, men in uniforms, art – it’s basically my fantasy. But it only took about 20 minutes of the film for it to angerfrustrate me. “Why?” you may ask… because of the blatant hypocrisy.

Short synopsis: Based on actual events, during WWII an Allied group (Monuments, Fine Arts, and Archives program) goes throughout Europe tasked with finding and saving pieces of art and other culturally important items before their theft (Führermuseum) or destruction by Hitler.

Here’s my problem with it — you see Europeans ravaged their way across the “3rdworld” and in the process destroyed and stole the precious and valuable art works of many ethnic cultures – and didn’t give it a second thought. For example: My family is Edo – a cultural group in West Africa known for our proficiency in the arts. And not to brag, but like…. we’re really known for our art work and without knowing it you’ve probably seen it. My mother has many times told me the story of The Punitive Expedition of 1897. What was that you ask? 

In short… It was a British invasion of the Kingdom of Benin that resulted in the loss of most of our art which was either destroyed, looted or dispersed. The art that was looted and/or dispersed was then sold throughout Europe and Australia to pay for the invasion. (Also, that invasion would allow the British to colonize the land that they would later name Nigeria – giving me TWO reasons to hate the British.)

…and the art has yet to be returned despite us damn near begging for it back. So my excitement for this movie was quickly quelled because unlike the artifacts from the tomb of Tutankhamun (King Tut)  – our government doesn’t own our culturally important art that is currently being exhibited across the world. And then I started to think… it can’t just be us. I’m sure this has happened to many others and sadly it has.

(By the way if you’re wondering how I found this list… I merely Googled “stolen art” and the name of a country I knew had been colonized at some point in its history.)

Now I probably don’t need to detail the importance of heritage (food, art, music, dance, etc.) to a group of people in establishing and maintaining their history, identity, and sense of pride. This is why I have a huge issue with cultural appropriation. When one or a group of people create something out of their own lived experiences and from their own God-given creativity – they deserve to own it and be credited with its existence. Isn’t that the very purpose of our copywrite laws? The problem with us not having our art is not the concern of depriving the “greater good” (whatever the hell that means); the problem is that our decedents don’t get tosee the intelligence and creativity of their ancestors. They are being denied their inheritance so that white people in other countries can walk through a museum and view it at their leisure and THAT is not fair nor is it right. So here are entire cultures of people asking “When will you give it back?” and receiving no answer. THEN to add insult to injury…. it is STILL being paraded toured and exhibited around the world profiting everyone but us.

I’m not taking away from the actions of the Allied group depicted in this film at all – in any way, shape, or form. What they accomplished and their self-sacrifices to do so were heroic and self-less and indeed for the greater good. But *I* cannot ignore that the very same government has done nothing to restore the artifacts taken from ethnic groups across the globe and to this day continue to profit from them.

So for the record…. White folks illegally plundered artifacts from cultures all over the world and have generally refused to return them. Meanwhile, here they are now boasting in a film about their passion for saving and rescuing their own artifacts (they were all European art works) at the hands of one of their own during WWII and then returning them to their countries of origin. Hypocrisy at best. Racist at the very least.

And yes, I finished watching the film because – why not … I’d already started it. However I couldn’t really write a “movie review” for it because I couldn’t get past the fact that it was basically bulls**t to me. Art repatriation is still a thing and sadly POCs rarely get ours back.

But yea… check it out – you’ll probably learn something.

>> Coming Soon: An actual movie review on “Top 5” (maybe…. If I feel like it)

23.Dec { 25 Things That Need to Stay in 2014 }

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So…

The gang of writers at Kennethology got together via google docs, and made a very short and concise listing of things that we feel should stay in 2014.  Needless to say, this list is full of foolery – but we are definitely serious to say the least…and we feel very strongly about every bullet point, and will argue with you to the death regarding them as well….

Please, take this in….

From Kenneth:

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  • Can we leave Drake in 2014 – he needs to become an afterthought.
  • Creases in jeans – the fact that you would break out an ironing board, and prepare your jeans to be creased…and then actually crease them is beyond me.
  • Fox News – and all of those that actually support that foolery…sitting there allowing your psyche and subconscious to absorb such nonsense…i’d delete the whole lot of you – if most of you weren’t so low-key with your racial vices
  • booking info on instagram – chic gets over 1000 followers on IG… now she got clientele and is a model….no negress…you’re followed because your butt cheeks are out, and you’re prolly a THOT
  • hood negros wearing dreads – lets let the 90s vibe of dreads return, so i can grow them and not be associated with the Chief known as Keef.
  • Washington Redskins and all manner of appropriated culture.  The fact that his has to be said in 2014 is ridiculous.  YOU CAN’T DO WHAT YOU WANT AND THINK IT’S OK!
  • Baggy Suits – or anything that looks like what steve harvey might wear.  Get yo lazy tail to the tailor and get a proper suit, also box-set suit and shirt combos are no longer needed in the new year either.
  • Wiz Khalifa and all of his songs, sans “we dem boys” ..because I am indeed one of those boys.
  • Your wack resolutions that you’ll bombard us with on social media.  I applaud your positive outlook on the new year….wait….NO I DON’T – you could’ve start thinking like that 3 months ago…Don’t let a calendar date dictate your level of motivation for self-improvement.  Get your life together.  Geez.  And if I didn’t like the old you – a new you probably won’t be liked either. – go to sleep.

From Sydney:

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  • I want to leave Iggy Azalea in 2014. I’d rather go back and rid myself of her ancestors…but ya know, baby steps
  • Can we leave GMO warnings behind? My granny is 83…been eating all sorts of wrong shit for that long…she still here..ijs
  • THOTs…they are starting to take pride in this label and buy excessive amounts of blonde weave and KSwiss
  • all them little muffoccurs rapping who sound like they are part of the lollipop guild…but drink crack smoothies
  • I want to leave Bae in 2014…it was cute when like 5 of us said it in 1999…but this is just ridiculous…when half of your baes look like bears
  • Keurig Coffee Makers…you don’t even drink coffee…you just like the idea of it being cute…reminds of you of a fancy Easy Bake Oven…
  • Lacefronts: I wanted to leave these in 2012, but between Beyonce and Tyra Banks and Korean shops everywhere, you muffoccurs won’t let them burn.and die out..btw, they would burn very quickly…just saying…in case anyone wants to walk around with a book of matches.
  • Big booty hoes who ain’t Black…What’s the big damn deal about these mixed breed, opaque ass, ⅛ drop of blood ass chicks having big ol butts…Black women have had big asses for CENTURIES…but nobody was all salivatory about it…except Sir Mix A Lot…he might be a prophet.

From Tina:

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  • New Blacks. *looks at Pharrell and all who agree with him*
  • White Guilt  – No one needs your guilt – it doesn’t help anyone. We need your Anger, Action, and for you to be an Ally.
  • Cultural appropriation. See music (Iggy Azalea), films (Exodus movie), hair, dance, basically everything. Mainly because you all look stupid, but also because it’s rude and sometimes racist.
  • Satire News Sites – Because yall don’t know what they are or how to use them… you don’t deserve them.
  • Fkc boys. Say no to them. Every year I ask you all to leave them behind. EVERY.YEAR. I will continue until you listen.
  • Stupid questions. Yes there is such a thing. Especially when you are asking me for an answer that Google will gladly provide to you. All you have to do is ask her – Ms. Google has all of the information you could possibly need. Don’t ask me something you can Google – this policy is effective starting in Jan 1, 2015.
  • Men who rock cornrows. Not to be confused with locs… which… whew *fans self*. Sorry I got sidetracked. No more cornrows. The fact that this even needs to be said. In 2014. That I have to request that you stop this.
  • Ken’s horrible memory – This is unacceptable.  The staff is gonna get a pool together and get you one of those brain exercise games.  We want you to just…..remember better in 2015.

This post has been brought to you by the lovely staff at Kennethology.com – bringing you quality words for your life on the innanets since a couple of years ago.

– Kenneth

 

 

25.Nov – { #NotToday } with Tina Nagbare

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Today was rough. It just was. And not because of the idiotic statements on my Facebook timeline from Whites and Blacks alike, but because it wasn’t the first and I know it won’t be the last of its kind. I was emotional and irrational and despite my many, many warnings people insisted on trying me. On challenging my emotions. On questioning my fear, my pain, and my rage. And my anger. My passionate anger and my desire to feel each of those feelings fully and intentionally. Today was not a day for peace, progress, and positivity – it was a day of mourning.
But WHY was I so angry? It wasn’t because of the lack of any indictment – many of us saw that coming. It wasn’t because of the ignorant comments – I’ve known for a long time that there was ignorance, various levels of “-isms”, and stupidty amongst my group of social media “friends”. It wasn’t even because of Michael Brown’s death or the pain of his family – those images are far too familiar -> to Emmitt Till and beyond. I was angry because I was hopeless.
But I work with and for young people. Black and brown young people who ‎everyday I’m trying to inspire hope in. Everyday so many of us tell them that getting an education will ensure their futures. Everyday so many of us mentor and push them to aspire to greatness. Everyday so many of us demand excellence and greatness from them. Every day. EVERY DAY.
But what happens on a day like today? How do I give hope when I don’t have any? How do I look at them and give inspiration and not feel my spirit cry when I see the hope draining from their eyes? How do I challenge them to be better when they don’t think they’ll live long enough to reap the rewards? How do I give hope when I don’t have any?‎ How do I respond when they say, “Now what?”
I can’t mentor them out of police brutality. I can’t educate them away from racism. All I can do is try to teach them not to hate, but still to live life on the defense. All I can do is inspire civic engagement. All I can do is tell them that they can be the one’s to change this country, but even that feels like a lie. I can’t protect them. We can’t protect them. And so none of that feels like it’s enough and less than enough feel like nothing. I give them the very best that I have – and it’s nothing.
I don’t know what to do. I don’t enjoy being angry. I don’t enjoy feeling hopeless. ‎I enjoy these tears. I don’t enjoy injustice. I don’t enjoy pain. Yet so many feel so entitled to tell me how to feel. How to move on and how quickly the process should be.
Today was not a day for peace, positivity, and progress.‎ It was a day of pain and mourning. And anger – so much outrage and rage. And I was entitled to it. And tomorrow might be like today.

18.Nov – Because Slavery… (A sarcastic, yet authentic response to “Nevermind the Coloreds”

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A few months ago I had 2 revelations. (1) The biggest coup people of privilege (read: white people – mainly men) have pulled off in recent decades is making oppressed people feel guilty for calling out their oppression. (2) I shall share later.

What do I mean? Have you ever been accused of ‘playing the race card’? Or being ‘too sensitive/emotional’?Or Had your comments brushed off making you feel foolish or guilty for even bringing it up?‎ — Well that’s what I mean.
 
The problem is along with this revelation I’ve also realized that my tolerance for someone else’s foolishness, ignorance, or particular brand of “-ism” (racism, sexism, classism, or other privilege) is at an all time low. It’s actually deficient and is currently below 0. And I’m fine with that.
So go ahead and accuse me of “playing cards”, because I ‎keep a deck in my back pocket. Tell me I’m being emotional and you shall experience all of them in real time.
And it never fails. Some fool will hit me with a “but compared to before, we’ve progressed as a society” line (women in the workplace, post-racial America, and so on..)‎. And to you I say, yes. We have progressed. It’s no longer socially acceptable to lynch Blacks, but it’s still perfectly ok to shoot us dead in the street for no reason with no consequences. Women ARE now in the workplace, but we also make .75cents on the dollar compared to men (well the white women do.. that number drops to .68‎cents for Black women & lower for Latinas) for doing the same exact work. So your barometer is STILL WRONG.
I’m now seriously considering walking ‎around with a deck of playing cards so I can throw them at people. I’m even creating a rating system.
  • If you update your opinion based on our conversation, I’ll toss you an Ace, or King, or Queen.
  • If I dislike your opinion, question, whatever – you’ll get a 2-10 based on the quality of your argument…..Who am I kidding… I’m going to throw the Joker at you. Because that’s what you are.
The moral of the story is: If you accuse me of “playing cards” get ready for me to pull out a deck. Because I won’t feel guilty for naming/calling out oppression when I see it. Joker.