Some male social media users said they find an adult son being physically close to his father “unnatural.”
Recently some pictures of a loving father and son laying down together made some men very uncomfy. Tragic.
As you can see in the picture above – captioned “18 years later and he’s still under my arm” …this father has always been close to his son, they love each other. In this fragile masculine, patriarchal construct that exists today – the notion of a man not doing manly things just shatters the very foundation of some men. Perhaps I find nothing wrong with this photo because my dad till this day plants big sloppy kisses on my forehead and tells me how much he loves me, and if wanted to…I could lay up under him all damn day. And Big KB (my dad) is one of the manliest men that has ever manned! Cars, motorcycles, engines, hunting, camping, trucks, boats, guns, beef jerky, plumbing, carpentry and muscles = my dad. I assume the list above is what makes a man….idk, I’m still trying to figure that out.
This jaded sense of knowing what “men do” causes way more harm than you think. It trickles into other areas and stifles the potential for great friendships. I have several gay male friends – some closer than others…history has shown that my very own sexuality comes into question just from the mere association with gay men. How can a heterosexual man that is 1000% turned on by women be that cool with gay dudes? He gotta be gay fam…
EASY, because I know who i am….lol.
I think the that the men that are extremely concerned with things that don’t look manly – are men that are having problems with their own identity. They can’t work out in their mind feelings that they may have – so they project and judge in order to not be positioned in a place where anyone would call into question their “manhood”
I kiss my sons, hug my sons, and they definitely lay on me. If you feel differently, then go create you some john deer juniors that have severe relational issues and can’t gauge whether or not their dad loves them. I have no doubt in my mind that mine does, and my sons won’t either – because we have a father-son intimacy that goes beyond some idiots ability to comprehend love.